This concludes my week of blogging about men, women, and relationships. Thank you so much for your questions and comments! Here are the highlights, along with a few bonus pieces. If you want to know more info, read the rest of the blogs!
- Find out who God is, then find out who you are. It will help you not to be such a fearful wreck.
- Tend your garden. Let God heal the parts that are broken and restore them.
- Don’t let just anyone into it. You are not desperate. God wants His best for you!
- Find out who God is, then find out who you are. When you discover His plan, chase it!
- Get your head on straight. Women are not a buffet for your eyes.
- Game on! When you pursue a woman, do it blatantly and righteously.
Prayer for Women:
Pray for the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. Pray that your heart would trust in the goodness of God. It produces a peaceful essence that doesn't lend itself to striving and clawing and grasping… rather, it lends itself to patience and grace and joy.
Prayer for Men:
Pray that God would help you to be drawn with the fire of a thousand suns toward character and godliness. Physical beauty is vain, it will fade, and it will disappoint you. Character grows. Beauty fades. Only a fool expects a lifetime of fulfillment from something that is guaranteed to be temporary.
Thoughts on Marriage (for women):
- Pray for your husband as often as possible. Buy this book.
- Find the right place on the Speak Up / Shut Up Continuum. Thou shalt not nag. Talk to God.
- Don’t just misplace your complaints – eliminate them. No talking to girlfriends or mom! Build him up in public and in private!
- Work on your appearance. Be as attractive as you can be for your husband and for him alone.
- Have a lot of sex with him. Welcome it. Initiate it.
Do you believe there is one person for each individual? Or does God have many possible matches for us, and it's us to discern the best choice?
I personally believe that God has one person for each individual. I definitely lean toward the whole “God is sovereign” end of things, meaning that I believe He has all these things planned for us, and that He guides us down His path to help us discover that person (this is an entirely different theological discussion that I won't broach here). I’ve heard people say, “I married this woman and it was a huge mistake. She’s not the one.” I completely disagree. Once you marry a person, they become the one. They're it. Even if you don't believe that God is sovereign, you've still entered into a lifelong covenant with them. Ultimately, that is your choice and that is God’s choice. I’m sure I’ll get a lot of disagreement and rebuttal on this, but this is where I fall on this answer.
If you have more questions or comments, leave them in the comment section and I'll try to respond to them there! Thanks so much for reading... I couldn't have done it without you!